Therapy for anxiety, perfectionism, and self-worth

Downers Grove, IL • Online across Illinois

When your mind won’t slow down, it can feel like you’re always bracing

You may look like you’re doing everything “right” on the outside: meeting expectations, staying productive, showing up for everyone else. But inside, you feel tense, behind, over-responsible, or like no matter how much you do, it is still not enough.

Anxiety does not just live in the mind. It can live in the body too, as tension, restlessness, shutdown, difficulty sleeping, or the feeling that you can never fully exhale.

Anxiety, perfectionism, and people-pleasing can show up as:

Constant overthinking or looping thoughts

High standards that quickly turn into self-criticism

Trouble relaxing, even when nothing is “wrong”

Procrastination, avoidance, or shutdown when things feel too overwhelming

Feeling responsible for other people’s feelings or reactions

Difficulty resting without guilt

Fear of disappointing others

Beliefs like “If I slow down, fail, or let someone down, I’ll lose my worth”

Why it makes sense (and why it’s exhausting)

Perfectionism, over-functioning, and people-pleasing are often protective strategies. At some point, they may have helped you stay connected, avoid criticism, feel successful, or create a sense of safety and control. But over time, those same strategies can leave you disconnected from your needs, your limits, and your sense of self.

Therapy can help you understand the patterns beneath the pressure, so change does not have to come from more force or more self-discipline. It can come from greater awareness, more flexibility, and a steadier relationship with yourself.

What therapy may help you shift

Together, we may work on:

  • calming a nervous system that stays on alert

  • understanding the protective parts that drive overthinking, overcontrol, or self-criticism

  • loosening shame-based beliefs around worth, productivity, and rest

  • building boundaries that feel more possible and less panic-inducing

  • using IFS-informed, ACT, and DBT-based tools to create more flexibility and steadiness

  • reconnecting with your needs, values, and internal cues

This work may fit if you’re someone who…

  • looks capable on the outside but feels chronically tense inside

  • is hard on yourself, even when others see you as successful

  • feels guilty resting, saying no, or taking up space

  • gets stuck in comparison, self-doubt, or fear of getting it wrong

  • tends to over-function for others while ignoring your own needs

  • wants to feel calmer, clearer, and more rooted in your own sense of worth

Therapy options

In-person: Downers Grove, IL • Online: Illinois statewide • Insurance: BCBS, Aetna, and United Healthcare PPO Plans

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Anxiety & Perfectionism FAQs

What is high-functioning anxiety?

High-functioning anxiety usually means you appear capable, productive, and pulled together on the outside while carrying a lot of internal tension, overthinking, fear of failure, or pressure beneath the surface. Even if you are managing a lot, it can still feel exhausting.

Can therapy help if I’m not having panic attacks?

Yes. Anxiety does not always look like panic. It can show up as overthinking, perfectionism, irritability, trouble resting, people-pleasing, sleep disruption, or constantly feeling on edge. If anxiety is shaping your relationships, choices, or sense of self, therapy can help.

I feel guilty setting boundaries. Can therapy help with that?

Absolutely. Boundary work is often connected to anxiety, self-worth, and nervous system safety. We can work on understanding what makes boundaries feel so hard and practicing them in a way that feels more grounded and doable.

Is perfectionism the same as having high standards?

Not exactly. High standards can be flexible and values-based. Perfectionism is usually more rigid and fear-driven, often tied to self-worth, approval, or fear of making mistakes.

Do you work with teens dealing with school and achievement pressure?

Yes. I support teens navigating academic stress, high expectations, anxiety, self-criticism, and identity development. Therapy can help them build more self-trust and reduce the pressure to hold everything together perfectly

How do I know if therapy is a good fit?

A consultation is a helpful first step. We can talk about what has been feeling hard, what you want support with, and whether my approach feels like a good fit.